Headphones

Some advice please. How do you listen to music, books etc. I want a pair of headphones, earbuds whatever works. However, all have problems for me. I have my head turned slightly to the right to be comfortable therefore big headphones move and don’t stay over the ear. earbuds or ‘in-ear’ devices get crushed into my ear. How do you get round that problem?
I am trying to keep the sound of my family adults and children and sometimes carers from spoiling my enjoyment!